Righteous
UncategorizedSometimes I feel so righteous. As if I were the creator of ‘right’ and ‘wrong’, simply because I tend to follow the rules. These rules set by people who I don’t even know. Yet, here I am, following them all. Well, most of them anyways. Constantly I question myself. Am I being nice? Too nice? Was what I said mean? Crap… I think it was. Apologize now. Do it until they forgive you. If the word wasn’t enough, what action can I do to show them I really want to make up for this? Am I being needy? Annoying? I can never get it right. Can anyone?
So today I’m here to question what makes things ‘right’ and what makes things ‘wrong’? Because we sit here and make these arbitrary decisions, and then when it happens to us we realize that that’s not how it really works. One of the best examples I can give are relationships. Someone somewhere decided one day that when you are in a relationship, that relationship must be monogamous (otherwise you must not love each other enough), it must have titles (because really, without those titles how would people possibly know you are in a relationship?), it must blind you to all your surroundings (seriously, don’t look around, you may find someone you actually click with), and you must not have any feelings towards anything other than your significant other (because why would you, right?). There are so many other cliché assumptions, but how many times have you stopped to ask yourself ‘why’?
I bet you’ve heard the phrase “cheating is wrong”. It’s been vocalized constantly numerous times throughout or life in a tireless nagging way. Yet personally, I don’t think it’s always black and white. Why is cheating wrong? In school it’s because it means you don’t know the information on the test; but this doesn’t necessarily mean you didn’t study, as there are various learning disorders that could easily be the reason why you’re having difficulties. In a relationship it may not mean you don’t respect the person you’re with, but it may mean the person you’re with is no longer the right person or you’re no longer happy where you are. DO NOT MISUNDERSTAND, I do not condone cheating, I am simply saying there are reasons beyond the one you may initially assume. With that in mind, I do think cheating in any form is wrong (in case you forgot, I follow the rules), but that’s because I’ve thought about it. It’s not the act of cheating per se, it’s the fact that it could have been prevented if the person doing the cheating would have just been honest in the first place.
This brings me to honesty. THIS IS IMPORTANT. Honesty does not mean ‘not lying’, it means implying the idea of the truth. If you imply a lie without lying, IT IS DISHONEST. If you omit something important to give the idea that it did not happen, IT IS DISHONEST. So let us remember that people are not just requiring the truth, they are requiring honesty. No deceit. No manipulation. No deception. So when I say to people that ‘omission is a lie’, it’s not because it is actually a lie, but it’s because it falls under the branch of deceit, and that’s just not cool.
Wow. So in the end, here I am lecturing about ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ when, again, who am I to determine this? Who is anyone, really?
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